I’ve been using that sign-off for more and more emails lately. Not in response to business-related stuff, of course, or to people I barely know. But for friends with whom, in the past, I would have logged off with “See you soon!” or “Sending good vibes” or even “Love”, I’ve taken to adding those extra letters.
It’s a small detail, but I wanted to address it because it wasn’t a conscious decision on my part, just something I started doing these last few days. In this time of isolation where actual contact has become nearly impossible, we’ve all been reaching out virtually to each other, being more honest with our emotions, to keep those connections, to toss each other life vests as we try to keep our heads above water.
A friend of mind FaceTimed me today, one I mostly see when I’m working in the city in which she lives, whom I adore but am rarely in touch directly. Our conversation touched on all the things you would imagine – the unprecedented state of the world, our loss of work and income, the things we were doing to care for our minds and bodies – and as we were wrapping up we both shared how the lives we were leading just a few weeks ago seem utterly surreal seen through the lens of the present.
Giving voice to that disconcerting feeling was a visceral reminder for me that while my friend and I had a shared history from a different time, we also shared a present that, though unnerving, was something that bound us together. To understand that the present is mutually experienced – that thought drew me not only into the exquisite acceptance of being in the moment but also made me realize that there was someone there with me, that we are not alone.
Sharing this present, no matter how frightened we are – it holds all the meaning, all the strength we need.
How do you find connection over distance?
My task for the day: vacuum, change the sheets, clean the bathroom. Simple chores around the house that give me a sense of normalcy and create a calm environment (done!)